• 'Let go let god' …
• … that is one way to describe Soren Lauritzen's the Let Go
Method
• It's a pretty simple, yet very powerful self improvement
technique
• The Let Go Method has the potential to totally change your
life
• Also, it can be a personal development plan, all by iteslf!
• Get to know the Let Go Method here – & try a simple version
of it
Let Go Let God – the Let Go Method
by Soren Lauritzen, the Personal Development Guy
The Let Go Method: The Background 1
This page is all about how to let go. But before you read
this page you might consider reading its 'mother' page
Letting Go – if you haven't already.
The mother page explains the basics of letting go (or letting
go and letting god, as it is sometimes called).
The Let Go Method is my own creation. I developed it over a
number of years using trial and error.
The Let Go Method is a result of my own process of 'wild'
personal development which I went through over the course of a
number of years. (You can read a bit more about that on the page
About me, the Personal Development Guy if you like). It is
also the result of me being a coach, self help author and guide
in consciousness.
Let Go Let God – the Let Go Method
by Soren Lauritzen, the Personal Development Guy
The Let Go Method: The Background 2
In short, at one point in my process of self improvement and
personal development I reached a state of being which I call
Home.
This state of being that can be described with the words total
inner peace, unconditional love, silence, awareness,
spaciousness, happiness and also in many other wonderful ways
including, if you like, as experiencing your true identity, your
soul identity.
It is a very attractive state of being. I 'arrived there' after
having done precisely what this page is all about: letting go
(let go let god).
After having been 'in it' for some time it gradually faded
again for me – much to my dismay. (It never went entirely away,
though, it's always with me).
But after it had faded somewhat I found myself:
a) wanting to experience Home 'full throttle' again
and
b) wanting to help other people experience Home, too.
In other words, I wanted to find a way for people to come Home
at will. I knew the key had something to do with the 'let go let
god' thing; I knew the total letting go had been instrumental,
so that's what I focused on. It took me a number of years of
intense experimentation, but I succeeded.
Let Go Let God – the Let Go Method
by Soren Lauritzen, the Personal Development Guy
What Is the Let Go Method?
The Let Go Method is both a therapeutic technique and a
powerful path to personal development.
It teaches some easy steps to forgiveness.
It is a path of practical spirituality.
It helps you in your self improvement;
in fact, it can be used as a
personal development plan in itself!
Even if I sometimes use the term let go let god about it, that
doesn't mean that it has to do with organized religion – it
doesn't. Let go let god is just an expression which I sometimes
use because it aptly describes the state of mind I am talking
about – the state of mind which allows you to go Home to
silence, spaciousness, happiness, unconditional love and
complete inner peace.
You can use the Let Go Method all by yourself at any time. You
can also have someone else (a coach, guide in consciousness or
just a trusted friend) help you – this is usually even more
powerful.
Generally speaking what you do is you use your awareness to
notice certain conditions in yourself (e.g. thoughts, feelings,
needs, beliefs, etc.).
Then you accept those conditions, put them into words and ask
yourself some questions which you then answer.
Let Go Let God – the Let Go Method
by Soren Lauritzen, the Personal Development Guy
The Let Go Method – an Analogy
If you want to know how the Let Go Method works, imagine that
you are travelling down a road which then forks out into several
roads … all of which lead to the same place – Home. That's an
excellent analogy for the Let Go Method.
Each of those roads in the fork is one of the ways the method
can be used. It consists of several different techniques – each
of which can be used on different aspects of our life and
consciousness (e.g. feelings, thoughts, needs, etc.).
Used by a pro the Let Go Method helps people Home almost every
time. If you use it by yourself odds are it will work much of
the time … and as you become more proficient at using it, it
will work most of the time.
But no method dealing with our consciousness works on someone
who (deep down) doesn't want it to work. The individual may
block the experience for a host of subconscious reasons.
Let Go Let God – the Let Go Method
by Soren Lauritzen, the Personal Development Guy
The Art of Letting Go – in Practice
Towards
the end of this personal development article you will be
presented with a very simple version of the Let Go Method.
This example, which involves letting go of a thought, will teach
you one (of several) ways to let go and let god (let go let
god). As you will see in a moment there are several other
important elements (such as feelings, needs, etc.) you can let
go of – to your great benefit.
I have also written a self help ebook on important aspects of
the Let Go Method. It is called
Finding Inner Peace by Letting Go – 10 Steps to Happiness,
Freedom, Love & More Using the Let Go Method (the above link
leads to an informational page about the book) and it will teach
you how to let go of feelings and needs.
It is 75 easy to read pages, in a PDF ebook for download – and
you can get it immediately after you have paid. It costs $19.
You can buy this excellent self help ebook here:
This little self help ebook is the precursor of a much bigger
book (several hundred pages) I have written on the Let Go Method
– in the Danish language. That book is not yet translated into
English, but at some point it will be.
Okay, moving on …
Let Go Let God – the Let Go Method
by Soren Lauritzen, the Personal Development Guy
What to Let Go Of?
So, what is it that you do not want to hold on to, if you want
personal development and a change to a better life?
Well, the answer to that is simple: anything that is limiting
you and giving you an unpleasant experience.
This includes (unpleasant versions of) your:
• Feelings
• Thoughts
• Patterns of behaviour (habits)
• Needs/wants
• Beliefs
• Chosen identity
The KEY is the unpleasantness.
Any kind of unpleasantness tells
you that it is time to let go.
And happily, when it comes right down to it, letting go is
simply … a decision.
Let Go Let God – the Let Go Method
by Soren Lauritzen, the Personal Development Guy
Why
We Think We Can't Let Go
Remembering that letting go is nothing more than a decision
makes it easy in theory. Not in practice, though.
Why? Because of this connection: the things that bring us the
most unpleasantness also happen to be the things that we really,
really want to hold on to! For some reason we think we
need them.
These are things we take very seriously. They are NOT things we
are just going to let go just like that.
Let Go Let God – the Let Go Method
by Soren Lauritzen, the Personal Development Guy
An
Example: Obsessive Jealousy
An example might be the unpleasant feeling of jealousy. For the
sake of this example let's assume that we're talking about
obsessive jealousy.
Subconsciously we think that our jealousy actually protects us
from being hurt emotionally. (Working with my clients has shown
this to be so).
The fact is, however, that jealousy is an extremely destructive
emotion which does NOTHING good for us or our relationships. On
the contrary, it may well drive our partner away. Countless
relationships have ended because of one partner's jealousy.
Clearly, jealousy is a prime subject for the Let Go Method.
However … we will hold on to our jealousy for dear life.
Subconsciously we are sure we need the jealousy to protect
ourselves from emotional harm.
Furthermore the feeling of (obsessive) jealousy is extremely
unpleasant so basically we don't want anything to do with it –
an attitude which will make it very difficult to do anything
about it.
So, we go on being jealous – and driving partner after partner
away.
And jealousy is just ONE example – there are many, many others.
Too many to count.
So we are stuck, right? No, not at all. But we do have to do
something that seems counter-intuitive:
We have to go INTO the unpleasantness and learn its secrets.
Let Go Let God – the Let Go Method
by Soren Lauritzen, the Personal Development Guy
Understanding Is the Key to Let Go and Let God
One thing is pretty certain: You are not going to let go before
you are ready for it. And you are probably not going to be ready
before you understand what is really going on inside you (i.e.
why you are holding on).
As the above jealousy example illustrated the most probable
answer to why you are holding on is: You perceive a need for
something. Thus, uncovering your needs becomes a priority.
Particularly as they relate to whatever it is that is giving you
discomfort, creating an experience of unpleasantness.
So, very often a process of letting go begins with a process of
digging and uncovering. Leading to understanding.
You know you feel a need, yes, but is the reasoning behind this
feeling sound? Probably not. In fact, it probably stems back to
your early childhood, and hopefully things in your life (and
your level of understanding) are somewhat different now.
But you are acting today on the basis of a strategy you devised
when you were, say, 2 years old. And unconsciously you are still
busy believing in this strategy and in the reasoning behind it.
Letting go (let go let god) is a state of mind, a state of
being, and those are also a matter of practice and habit. So as
time goes by and you practice the Let Go Method, it becomes much
easier to do that much wanted let go let god thing.
Well, enough explanation!
Let's get to it. Trying the Let Go Method in practice is the
best way of learning it.
Let Go Let God – the Let Go Method
by Soren Lauritzen, the Personal Development Guy
The
Let Go Method Ultra Light – for Thoughts
What follows is a very simple version of the Let Go Method. This
example, which involves letting go of a thought, will teach you
one of several ways to let go and let god (let go let god).
To let go of a thought do the following:
01. Notice that you are experiencing an unpleasant
thought
(Example: My boss hates me)
02. Put the thought into words for yourself; use 1, 2 or
3 sentences in which you state reasons and connections
(Example: My boss hates me because I am not good enough at my
job)
03. Repeat the thought to yourself, several times
(preferably with enhancements like 'really', 'completely',
'totally', 'utterly', etc.)
(Example: My boss hates me, my boss really hates me; my boss
totally hates me; my boss hates me utterly and completely)
04. Now answer this question: What lies behind or
beneath that thought? (It is probably another unpleasant
thought, or perhaps an unpleasant feeling).
(Example: I must be a failure as a person)
05. Think the new, underlying thought or feel the new,
underlying feeling
(Example: I am a failure as a person)
06. Repeat the new, underlying thought to yourself
(several times, preferably with enhancements like
'real'/'really', 'complete'/'completely', 'total'/'totally',
'utter'/'utterly', etc.) or enhance the new, underlying feeling
(Example: I am a failure as a person; I am a real failure as a
person; I am a complete failure as a person; I am a total, utter
failure as a person)
07. Put your new thought or new feeling into words for
yourself; use 1, 2 or 3 sentences in which you state reasons and
connections
(Example: I am a failure as a person because I skipped too many
classes in school, never studied and never learned to please
people in authority, such as my boss)
08. Now answer this question: What lies behind or
beneath that thought or feeling? (It is probably another
unpleasant thought or feeling).
(Example: I am lazy)
09. Repeat points 05 to 08 as many times as you need to
in order to reach clarity
That's it. You're done. This is an ultra light version of the
Let Go Method as it pertains to letting go of thoughts.
Addendum 1: If you get stuck, use the thought
of being stuck (or your feeling of being stuck) as the
feeling/thought in point 06
(An example, starting at point 06:- (06): I think I am stuck;
which might be followed by …- (07): Yeah, I am surely stuck,
really stuck, totally stuck, completely and utterly stuck; which
might be followed by …- (08): I am stuck because the same
thoughts keep popping up over and over again; which might be
followed by …- (09): What lies behind this feeling is a
feeling of inadequacy; at which point you return to point 06,
etc.)
Addendum 2: If you get to a point where you
cannot feel/think anything, use that emptiness in point 06
(Example: If you like, you can check out the example from
Addendum 1, but replace 'I feel stuck' with 'I feel empty')
Addendum 3:If you reach a very scary point, where you feel that
you will be lost or even die if you proceed, that is just great!
It means that you are very close to reaching clarity. Do
proceed!
(Example: I have reached a point of no return, I think I just
might die if I continue this process. At which point you ignore
your fear and continue the process).
Let Go Let God – the Let Go Method
by Soren Lauritzen, the Personal Development Guy
Let Go Let
God: Final words
Please note that the above technique is an extremely cut-down
version of the Let Go Method … one which only pertains to
thoughts. This version is tested in practice, but it does NOT
include all the steps and all the information you need if you
REALLY want to work with this method.
This cut-down version is, however, useful. It is easy to
learn, quick and easy to use, and in many instances it can help
you quite nicely.
But the let go let god thing can be elusive, and even if you
do not succeed in letting go completely, the odds are that the
process will have helped you realize some pretty important
things. More often than not, this is enough to ease the
discomfort and give you some peace.
Finally, let me just repeat that I have written a self help
ebook on important aspects of the Let Go Method (how to let go
of unpleasant feelings and needs): Finding
Inner Peace by Letting Go –
10 Steps to Happiness, Freedom, Love & More Using the Let Go
Method. 75 pages in a PDF ebook for download at $19. You
can buy it here:
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